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Amie B
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| I would wonder how much the husband has gained also =P |
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Jayson L
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| Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 7:04 am Post subject: |
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| My wife gained 30lbs. I in no way thought she looked any less beautiful/sexy/hot, all the above. When you love someone you should love them regardless if they put on weight. The person does not change. Now, recently she started feeling bad about the weight gain and joined curves and cut back on her eating and has lost six and a half pounds and about 14 or 15 inches ! Let me tell ya, she looks fabulous ! When she came home and told me about the loss, I was very happy for her and proud of her, but until I actually looked at her, and seen the difference I can really see how a few pounds affects a person's feelings about themselves. But anyway, at 30lbs, I felt no different about her than I ever did. And as I said before, weight shouldn't change the way you feel about someone you love ! |
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infomuscle
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| Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 7:05 am Post subject: |
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| find a new pretty young wife. the world is changing. just ask your priest or minister if your religion would ok such a move. |
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momvader73
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| Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 7:07 am Post subject: |
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| Most of the answers to this question were great. Of course you still love her either way. That is your first priority. You can tell her you are worried about her health all you want but it will still hurt her feelings. Still, it has to be done.Here is what no one else touched on. The best way to soften the blow is to make sure you are still providing a lot of physical affection. If she knows you still think she's beautiful and sexy, it won't be as hard for her to lose some weight if necessary. If she feels good about herself, it is easier to make changes. |
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MANGO FACE
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| Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 7:08 am Post subject: |
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| You probably didnt notice the weight gain as you are with her a lot.. You should try to think about something in her life causing her distess..work?family?her past?maybe she has secrets she holds inside? Suggest therapy together.feel happier-look better |
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rafistrain
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| Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 7:12 am Post subject: |
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| Yes it would bother me a lot,and I would first try to int ice her to loose it.If she didn't have plans to loose the weight after letting her know how I feel then I would look for another woman.100 pounds.That is pretty much saying that she doesn't care about her and her loved ones.Just plain old greedy.See an attorney.Talk to him.Let him know your plans.Take your time.If she is that selfish she will try and get everything.Do not allow that to happen.Plan before you tell her. |
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mr danger
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| Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 9:39 am Post subject: |
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| I would insist that she loses a good part of it in a sane and timely manner and then take a pro-active approach to help her accomplish that goal.I would do it for her personally and I would do it for our marriage because inevitably her continuing to gain weight will translate into a self-image problem which will then extrapolate itself into a sex-life problem and once you get that ball rolling down the hill it's damned near impossible to turn it around.You do have your work cut out for you . Good luck with it, |
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Kattrina G
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| Posted: Sun Feb 10, 2008 6:35 am Post subject: |
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| me and my husband both gained about forty pounds. then he decided he wanted another baby. well I ended up gaining another 75lb with my pregnancy. You know nothing changed about the way he felt about me. but my weight really bothers me and i just can't loose it on my own. it is to much weight. so I expressed my concerns to him and he has agreed to help me pay for the lap band . so maybe you can tell her she looks perfect to you but you want her to out live you and then both make a plan to do some thing. Good Luck. |
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